As my children grow older, I am really surprised at how different boys and girls really are. We seem to live in a parallel universe, hovering between sparkling castles where unicorns prance across our backyard and a place where the vacuum cleaner is the evil villain and super spies are closing in for the kill.
My boys seem to be polar opposites from my girls. Dirt is attracted to them like magnets and there are moments when I think the mere smell of them might drive me bonkers. And, is it really necessary to crawl along the floor of every store and restaurant we visit? Seriously?
Who are these small, grimy creations made in the image of God and why were they entrusted to me?
Franc, my sensitive four year old. Emotional, yet curious. We have been to the emergency room more times than I can count but no trip as stunning as the incident where he grabbed a light bulb in a lamp that had been on for hours and landed us in the hospital for three days over the weekend of my birthday and Mother’s Day.
Ruble, my charismatic two year old. I am certain that he will one day have a career in either demolition or engineering. The boy with the insatiable appetite for disorder also has an insatiable appetite for… well… food! He has been known to gnaw through the plastic around a loaf of bread and chomp down half the loaf before being spotted hiding behind a curtain.
Sometimes, when I am just short of testosterone overload, I picture myself at a MBA meeting… that’s “Moms of Boys Anonymous” and it only exists in my imagination…
“Ahem… Hello, my name is Tabitha and I am the mother of two boys.”
I glance into a sea of sympathetic faces, wrinkles added by unexpected traumas and gray hairs sported like medals of honor. The answer is a resounding, “Hi, Tabitha!” Somehow, this imaginary support group understands.
“Did I mention that we homeschool?” They escort me straight to the padded wagon. HA!
These boys have the power to drive me to the brink but more so than that, they can melt my heart with a single glance, change my mind with one tiny giggle or turn my entire day around with a warm snuggle.
Books to encourage the mom of boys
So, I think some special reading is in order because I need help figuring out in my female brain how the male brain works. Here are some books that have been recommended to me from moms of boys:
Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys by Stephen James and David Thomas ~ Written by fathers of boys… five boys between them, I figure this one might be a good place to start. This book promises to be an “engaging owner’s manual on boys aged two to 22.”
Boys Should Be Boys: 7 Secrets to Raising Healthy Sons by Dr. Laura Meeker ~ While I am sure there is no real secret to raising boys, this book gets great reviews on Amazon and appears to offer some very practical suggestions.
And sooner than I like to think, I will need to read Preparing Your Son for Every Man’s Battle: Honest Conversations About Sexual Integrity (The Every Man Series) by Stephen Arturburn, which offers insightful recommendations for having conversations with our boys about sexual integrity.
What books have you read to help you understand your boys?
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