A few afternoons ago, I was minding my own business, browsing my Facebook news feed while sitting on the sofa in my ripped-up yoga pants, stained t-shirt… Should I mention the sleeping bra? Anyway, I wasn’t hurting a fly as far as I knew and then I read the title for an intriguing link.
What I Wore Wednesday – Getting Dressed After Getting The Hairy Eyeball by Stef over at Educating Layton.
Hairy Eyeball? This, I had to see. So, I clicked it and that was my mistake… or maybe, it was my wake-up call.
The Double Standard
I get up in the morning running. With four children, a husband, a homeschool, and several websites to manage, as well as the social media that goes with it, there is a lot to fit into my day. I often skip getting dressed for the sake of saving time, and why get dressed anyway when I do not buy clothes for myself and all of my “home” clothes are yoga pants and t-shirts? Worse yet, I might even skip meals or eat them on my feet.
What kind of example is that to my children? How can I expect them to care for me when I do not care for myself? What must they think about the double standard I present? I preach at them about walking around with food or standing while they eat at the table while I stand at the counter, scarfing down lunch. I tell them how important it is to exercise while I do not exercise myself. I make them clean their rooms while my room looks like a storage shed.
It’s like screaming, “Do as I say, not as I do!”
Something else stirred in my heart as a result of reading Stef’s article. My priorities are messed up. You could just hang a big sign across my behind: Out of Order.
I rarely take time to read my Bible in the morning. I personally believe that causes a chain reaction throughout my day.
There are mornings when I try to make our Circle Time into my personal devotional. While I am certainly blessed by doing Bible study and worship with my children, I am trying to pour into them from an empty cup.
And, if I am going to confess my lack of priorities, I have to also mention my time on the sofa… laptop at hand…
The Lazy Side of Me
All of the things I do each day are important but sometimes, I must confess, I spend more time of the sofa with the laptop than is absolutely necessary. Or, I might waste the time that I have available to work on my websites by goofing around the internet.
Now, is it wrong to take a break? Absolutely not. But, when the break stretches into an hour or two or three and I fail to meet the basic needs of my household like doing the dishes daily, then I have a problem.
Proverbs 18:9 “He who is slothful in his work is a brother to him who is a great waster.”
A great waster of time. That’s me.
How a Hairy Eyeball Changed My Life
I thought about titling this post “How a Hairy Eyeball Changed My Life” but it was really Stef Layton who impacted me. I am thankful that she was so transparent and shared from her heart. I am sure she didn’t target me or anyone in particular with her post but it really helped me to see the bad example I was giving my children.
Stef’s article did more than shake up my day, it has changed my week… perhaps my life… perhaps even the lives of my children.
My thanks to Stef for stepping on my toes.
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