**This post will be updated as new information comes available. Thank you for following along with our adoption story and for praying. Our Paypal donation page is located HERE.**
I am a firm believer that God ordains things to happen. That’s never been more true than watching how our adoption of Leu develops.
(Since I choose to protect the privacy of my children on the blog by referring to them with the names of foreign currency, our soon-to-be son will be called Leu after the Moldavian Leu.)
In the fall of 2016, a precious 12 year old boy – a classmate of my daughter’s – was visiting our home for a playdate along with other friends from school. It wasn’t his first time over as we hosted playdates once a month, and he felt very comfortable with me. Perhaps that’s why he asked such a bold question.
“Do you like having four children?”
I looked up from what I was doing into his round, little face. “Yes, very much,” I answered.
“Would you ever want more children?” he pressed.
“Maybe. My husband and I have actually thought about adopting one day.”
He leaned closer. “Would you adopt me? If something happens to my parents, I mean?”
At that time, I had worked closely with children in church and educational settings for almost 20 years. I considered this a typical childish fear and assured him that his parents would be just fine.
Later that summer, Leu’s mother passed away.
Upon returning to school after summer break and I learned that Leu’s mother had passed, we dove deep into his family, giving to his father all of the support we could muster.
His father became a dear friend to me. We would speak on the phone for an hour at a time. He would always assure me that he loved his children (three adults and one child) very much and that he wanted Leu to come live with us after his passing, but he never seemed inclined to put any plans into writing.
Less than two years later, his father passed away.
My husband and I called several attorneys but were told we could not be helped since we were not blood-related.
Leu was placed in the custody of an unemployed relative, and while my husband and I doubted the situation, we resolved to put just as much effort into the relationship with this relative, hoping it would make a difference, as we had Leu’s father.
We became whatever resource was needed: hosting this child in our home for school holidays and weekends, taking him with us on family vacations, buying him clothes and food, picking him up from school when his guardian didn’t, and growing to love him as our own.
Another two years have passed and now Leu is 16… and he is again asking us to adopt him. (I am choosing to not explain the urgency to protect his and his guardian’s privacy.)
On Tuesday, November 30, the judge called for an emergency hearing and we hoped to be granted temporary legal custody of our soon-to-be son through the entire adoption process, rescuing him from an unhealthy living environment. We even have the consent of the guardians for the adoption. But, the judge thought the claims were exaggerated and that something nefarious was brewing. I can’t even begin to imagine what he thinks is happening.
Isaiah 54:17“No weapon that is fashioned against you shall succeed, and you shall confute every tongue that rises against you in judgment. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord and their vindication from me,” declares the Lord.
After Christmas, a guardian ad litem was appointed to our case. She interviewed everyone involved, especially our son.
Unfortunately, she presented adoption in such a way that it scared all of us. Our son-to-be decided to withdraw his consent as he does not want to completely sever his legal relationship with his remaining siblings.
My husband and I wholeheartedly support his decision because our intent was never to create more divisions in his life but to bring unity to the extended family while giving him a permanent and safe place to develop into all God intends for him to be.
However, all parties still support our request to assume his guardianship and the guardian ad litem wrote her report emphasizing that she believes the best place for our son is in our home.
After a long wait, we returned to court for a status hearing in early January. Since this was just a status hearing, we did not anticipate the judge issuing any new orders concerning our case.
All of the ordered participants attended the hearing but unfortunately one of the agencies failed to submit the court-ordered report and we have another delay.
The judge did accept our request to dismiss the adoption petition and transition to a petition for guardianship. He said that would be considered at our next hearing in February.
How you can help
We have set up several ways you can help.
Prayers are greatly appreciated. Please pray specifically:
- For our son. His heart. His mind. His safety.
- For the judge. That his eyes will be opened to the truth and that he will see this situation for what it is.
- For speed. The next hearing isn’t until January 4th. We are praying for God to do something supernatural and have our son back with us before Christmas.
- For finances. We have money tucked into savings but the unexpected deposit as well as increasing attorney fees are draining us quickly.
Our God is good. He is working even when we cannot see. Thank you for praying.
I am not asking for a hand out. I am not the kind to easily accept donations. Nope. But I do recognize that I need help.
Previously, I bundled up my best Christmas printables and unit studies (a $35 value) and placed them on sale for just $5.
NOTE: If you purchased the Boredom Busting Christmas Bundle, THANK YOU. We raised just over $1,000 through those sales and additional $1,000 in donations (mentioned below.)
Now, my community of blogging friends have stepped forward to offer their support by creating a new bundle of their own products to help us acquire the finances needed to continue this long and winding journey.
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Plus, you can choose your price HERE! With a donation of $7, $15, or $25, you get all 22 resources.
Setting up a donation page was extremely difficult. I am a fixer by nature. A giver. I don’t want to be the one with my hand out.
But several people asked for a way to contribute without making a purchase. So I swallowed my pride and made the page. You can find our adoption donation page HERE or contribute using the button below.
God is in control
I am a firm believer that God is in control. And while I don’t understand why God is choosing to do things this way, there is a reason.
I also believe that God equips us with what we need for every battle. And that’s where you come in.
If you would help us with our adoption by praying, purchasing the Boredom Busting Winter Bundle or making a donation, I would be eternally grateful. And so would my soon-to-be son.
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